There is a well known quote: "Heated gold becomes ornament."
Now imply the above quote on a relationship, that can be any relationship- between husband and wife, between friends, between siblings, between lovers, between boss and employee, between student and guide, anyone. If any fight, misunderstanding or grudges happen between them, over a period of time, then either it may lead to breaking of relationship or may be continuing it further after the fight. Acceptable. But the point here is not the cause of breaking or continuing, or whether or not it should have been taken forward, but what will be the nature of "re-bonding"? Will it be stronger, weaker or unaffected?
If we start taking a poll on the above, most of the votes will go to first or second option leaving a few for the third option. We all understand the impact of a friction. It will never leave the persons same and will end up in leaving a mark. Hey, I am talking about really strong fight!! Well, lets come back to the quote mentioned above which means more the difficulties through which a relationship will come out, stronger it will be after passing.
Now, I am sure most of you may be thinking of the another very common quote while reading this, which you must have read sometime somewhere. Which one?
"Relationship is like a thread, once broken, it can only be joined through a knot."
So now it is between gold and thread!!!!!! Who wins when talked in terms of relationships? Does relationship shines like an ornament after heating up or it remains with a lifetime knot in it?
Please feel free to comment and provide your opinion, and I will give my opinion in next post...
8 comments:
Anything whether it's gold or thread, it won't remain the same. If you melt the god cube and solidify it in the same mold, the outer shape will be same but the internal atoms have changed the place (I know li'l physics and chemistry). In my opinion gold is also not good for relationship which melts when heated (fight!!!) and then solidifies in a shape which is possible at that moment. I like mercury. It changes the shape depending on the curvy roads of life but sticks together without leaving even a impression of friction. It is so dynamic that it doesn't have to worry about the new shape given that the molecules are together.
Regarding the thread, I would say yes relationship is very delicate. If the thread does not have any knot, I would say it's not tested and would fail in difficult times. Don't you think is it good to have knots at weak points of your thread before flying a kite. So test your thread at the weakest points at earliest to have a safe kite flying.
@ Nikunj: This can be the best possible explanation with examples and really motivating.... Thanks a lot :)
No more comment from my side at this stage. In my next post I will explain my views on that. Lets see, what others have to say in it!!
Nice write up ... well , knots are necessary for a thread to be strong and heat / friction is necessary for gold, so are frictions and misunderstandings in a relationship. But well , all these could be helpful to know the individuals better and to grow the relation stronger as any friction happens due to lack of realistic expectations or reaching each others ideals. But however deep / shallow the relation is , too much friction is not good. As elders say "Athi sarvathra varjayeth "... meaning Extra of anything /anywhere is supposed to be dangerous and is to be avoided. There must be one target after which some body has to calm down to avoid the complete spoling of thread so the other end of it doesnt disappear in order to tie a knot that joins it back !!! :)
Cheers,
Chandu.
@ Chandu: Well said dear.. Thanks.. 100% agreed :)
I really don't know exactly.......... but what sometimes I feel is that re-bonding basically depends on our relationship before the happening of any fight or grudges or something like that (at-least in my case, I feel so).
In my opinion, if you are at good terms in a relationship, then if something happens also, u'll try to find some reasons to validate that cause from the point of view of both (not only urs).... but if a bonding is not that strong in the first place only, then a little blow of wind can affect it badly.
that's all wat I feel about it.... can be completely wrong also.....
@ D: Quite right D.. Close to the point :)
I hope you will not mind anonymous comments. I think The moment you call it fight, it is meant to be forgotten. fights are proofs that bond exists.
its seperation that needs rebonding. if your mind speaks of rebond, its thread and if your heart needs rebond, its gold my friend.
@ Anonymous: Thanks a lot for the comment. I don't mind anonymous comments but it would be really good to know who has shared his/her views :)
Well, I agree with ur point.. fights themselves are a proof of the bond and fight is not equal to separation or break up.. If the bond sustains itself even after fights, it has to be a gold only !!
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